Moving On, probably one of the hardest thing to do in life. The lyrics of Ben Harper’s song (which then cover by Joe Brooks) – “ So hard to do , but so easy to say “ in reference to the Move On part , caught my eyes which I think one of the reason why i wrote this post. People, especially friends always expect their friends (who suffer from a break up) to move on because they think it’s the best thing to do. It is, but like the lyrics said, it’s easier to say than done. Especially when that person has fallen deeply to that person who left him/her.
One major fact that you have to realize before you starts dating (or falling in love with someone at least) , you have to be aware that there is always a possibilities that the relationship wont work out ( or in the falling in love case, get rejected ). I’m not saying that you have to think about the possibilities of you breaking up everyday, because that’s just plain stupid. You can however, set in mind that breaking up or get rejected is part of human’s life.
One thing that I dont understand is when people started to hate their ex (-es) after being dumped by them. Well it make sense if that person lied, not being honest, or used you for any particular reason, that it is okay to hate that person. But I don’t understand when people tend to hate their ex-es just because the former boyfriend/girlfriend is falling for someone else. No, I didn’t mean cheating. What I meant was, when one person, honestly tell their boyfriend/girlfriend that they want to end the relationship (this case is usually still accept by people). But when the reason for the break up is because she/ he meets someone new, the people who just being dumped tend to hate the honest boyfriend/girlfriend who have the guts to admit that they like someone new. Isn’t it better for them to admit to you rather than they have an affair behind you? Or isn’t it better for them to come clean rather that hiding (lying) their feelings, and pretend like they still love you?
Loyalty should be the issue here. But sometimes, u just cant blame them ( unless you have proved that they did it on purpose or they just trying to play with you heart, and all of this belong to the other case – dishonest ). I mean, yes, one should be loyal to their boyfriend/girlfriend. However, we have to accept the fact that sometimes, it is beyond our control. Sometimes you just fall for someone else even if you don’t want it to happen. Yes, we can fight it, but it is hard right? This is nature of life and we really can’t do anything about it.
Well,who am I kidding? Of course we will be mad if our boyfriend/girlfriend left us for another person. But what you can do is to keep the feelings inside. Or maybe share with someone. DON’T go texting them or post in your blog and tell them how much you hate them. Or tell everyone that your ex is a bitch. It is wrong and stupid. Be mature , don’t do it ( Bitching about them to your heart is fine tho )
“it's so hard to do and so easy to say.
But sometimes - sometimes,
you have to walk away - walk away.
With so many people to love in my life, why do I worry about one?"
Ben Harper/ Joe Brooks - Walk Away
So yes, only thing that you can do is to move on. Even if you cant find someone new, just try to be happy. You don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy. Just live your life and pray that one day you’ll find your replacement.
Ps : Please don’t be mad at me for trying to sound clever by writing this post. Blame the holidays. And trust me, even I am not sure why of all the topics that people can think of when they’re bored, I chose this topic.
